I get it. It is important to communicate your needs clearly and unambiguously. And women are notoriously bad at it (I wonder why but let's focus on the issue here).

I just wonder: why is it that we women have to spell out - slowly, deliberately, and repeatedly - that a labor division of 30-70 isn't fair. Why do we have to spell out - slowly, deliberately, and repeatedly - that there is no law that says women are the primary responsible for the emotional and practical household of the family. Why do we have to spell out - slowly, deliberately, and over and over again - that the dishes that are as plain in your sight as in mine need to be cleaned?

It's like seeing someone stuck in quicksand, slowly drowning and still asking: "Would you like some help?"